Domestic Abuse: How To Spot Relationship Red Flags (2023)

Navigating the ups and downs of a relationship can be a complicated — and maybe a little messy — process. We all move through the stages of love differently. Many of us go through a honeymoon phase that later makes us question whether things are working out the way we want. Sometimes, it’s easy to see some problems as glaring landmines that need to be addressed. Other times, tiny red flags pop up long before we see them as real, solid issues.

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Red flags are troubling because they can build toward larger issues, like ones that could result in domestic violence, says social workerKaren Salerno, MSSA, LISW-S. Most people think of domestic violence as only physical abuse, but it can also include mental, emotional, sexual and/or financial abuse.

“It can be difficult to break the power and control dynamic found in domestic violence,” says Salerno. “It’s important to know that the abuse is not your fault even if your partner tries to make you feel like it is.”

Salerno shares tips on how to identify relationship red flags early on. She also reviews the various ways red flags present themselves.

What are red flags in a relationship?

More than 12 million peopleare abused annually in the United States, according to the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Sometimes, these incidents occur suddenly and without warning. But in many cases, there are red flags that indicate something may be amiss long before it becomes physical or dangerous.

To identify red flags, Salerno says it’s important to remain aware of issues as they arise. Red flags don’t happen in a vacuum. Instead, many red flags tend to rear their ugly heads at the same time. Paying attention to this cycle of behavior is important.

“There’s going to be a pattern,” says Salerno. “Typically, there’s not going to be an isolated incident. There will be multiple things that come up.”

Some red flags, like physical abuse, may be obvious on the surface. But there are also silent red flags, like showering you with gifts or texting you all the time. These creep in subtly and then evolve over time.

(Video) 10 Relationship Red Flags of Abuse

“One example that’s a little bit more subtle that could potentially lead to further issues is if someone tells you that you look beautiful in a dress,” says Salerno. “Then, maybe it starts to morph into that person telling you, ‘I don’t like that shirt on you.’ Then it could turn into the person telling you what you can and can’t wear.”

In order to spot potential red flags in a relationship, it’s important to understand what healthy relationships look like.

What does a healthy relationship look like?

All healthy relationships function on some level with core values that include:

  • Mutual respect.
  • Communication without fear of retaliation.
  • Honesty and accountability.
  • Trust and support.
  • Fair negotiation.

Fair negotiation is especially important. When difficult situations arise, or differences occur between you and your partner, how do you handle them? Are you able to listen to each other’s needs and express how you’re feeling without attacking the other person? Are you willing to make healthy compromises without sacrificing your personal values? Or do you find yourselves arguing when life gets difficult and your needs aren’t taken seriously?

“A red flag of a potential abuser is someone who isn’t fair — they set the rules and there is no negotiation,” says Salerno. “But in a healthy relationship, you’re always talking about compromise and looking for solutions to conflict together.”

Red flags early in the relationship

Knowing what warning signs to look for early on in a relationship is important. As red flags show up more and more over time, you’ll start noticing patterns of behavior.

“There tends to be a cycle of abuse,” says Salerno.“In the first phase, tension builds and a person may feel like they are ‘walking on eggshells.’ In the second phase, the abuse occurs. In the third phase, the abuser may apologize and all may seem well — until the cycle repeats.”

Abuse comes in many different forms. Here are some red flags to pay attention to.

They try to influence you through apparent affection or love bombing

If they shower you with an excess of affection, compliments and gifts early on in the relationship, this could be an early sign of trouble. On the surface, it seems great — who doesn’t love a lot of affection and gifts? But everything comes at a price.

“Love bombing happens when someone is moving too quickly,” says Salerno. “They constantly want to be with you. They’re sending you lavish gifts out of proportion to the situation. Maybe you’ve only gone on a couple dates and they’re pressuring you to move in together or marry them.”

These behaviors can be red flags because the relationship is moving so quickly that each person may not have a chance to truly get to know each other. They’re inundating you with things to try to gain power and control over you and the relationship. Love bombing tends to drive a relationship, but when it ends, it can result in an unbalanced relationship.

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They talk about their exes with disrespect

You can tell a lot about a person by the way they speak about their exes. Sure, many of us might feel burned by them. But if everything seems one-sided, or if they’re constantly calling their exes “crazy,” this may be a sign that not all’s well that ended well.

“Maybe they’re always asking about previous partners and how they compare,” says Salerno. “Or they’ll blame their previous relationship failures on the other person. If they’re constantly putting down their ex or blaming them for things, you could start seeing a pattern where the person is not taking ownership of their behavior.”

Their anger makes you feel unsafe

Domestic violence doesn’t always start with physical abuse. If your partner becomes angry in a way that makes you feel unsafe, this is a huge red flag. Anger is an issue when it happens suddenly and often, or because they threaten you with violence.

“In a loving, supportive and healthy relationship, people may get angry, but they’re not going to take it out on you. They’re not going to physically hurt you and they’re not going to threaten to hurt you,” stresses Salerno. “If you find yourself getting scared of someone and their anger, I would really pay attention to that.”

They push your physical boundaries

This one can be an obvious red flag, but it can have some silent tendencies, too. If your partner is making you do things they know you find uncomfortable or unwanted, they’re pushing your physical boundaries. But this can also happen on a smaller scale. Perhaps you’re not in the mood to cuddle, you don’t like being tickled or just need some personal space. If they’re unwilling to listen to how you’re feeling, this crosses that personal line.

“How people define and establish boundaries is different for everyone. That may be something someone doesn’t recognize right away,” notes Salerno. “In a healthy relationship, someone respects you. If you say, ‘I don’t like that,’ ‘I’m uncomfortable,’ or ‘I don’t feel well,’ someone who loves and respects you will respect the boundaries that you’re setting.”

They isolate you

One major red flag, especially with victims of domestic violence, is that your partner may find ways to cut you off from the world around you. Maybe they’re hesitant to meet your friends or family or they get jealous when you spend time with them. Maybe they demand so much of your time and energy that it makes it difficult to see your friends and family, and they get angry when you do.

“In a relationship where someone is trying to exert power and control over another individual, the way that they can gain that power and control is really by isolating that person and controlling them so that they’re not able to interact with others,” says Salerno. “The smaller your world is, the larger impact the abuser has on your world.”

They gaslight you

This particular form of emotional abuse happens when your partner makes you question things you said or did in an effort to misplace blame or guilt. The goal is to make you feel responsible for what’s happening, even when it’s not your fault. An example, your partner may say you ruined an evening or an event in response to you communicating your feelings about something that upset you.

“Gaslighting is really trying to undermine someone’s reality,” says Salerno. “It’s another example of someone trying to set rules for you which could be another way to try to gain power and control over you.”

They have a hard time respecting your personal space

Is your partner being clingy? Do they expect or demand that you spend a certain amount of time with them each week even though it’s in direct conflict with your job, hobbies and other plans? If you’re feeling spread thin to meet the demands of your partner’s needs and they’re not respecting your need for downtime and personal space, this may be a red flag.

(Video) 14 Signs of Emotional Abuse In Relationships

“If you’re saying, ‘I’m not comfortable with this,’ and they’re ignoring that, this is a sign of an unhealthy relationship,” says Salerno. “Initially, someone might feel flattered by the amount of time their partner wants to spend with them. However, that really could be a red flag if someone is trying to isolate you and gain control over your schedule.”

They need constant reassurance

This red flag is a difficult one. If your partner has unresolved trauma or baggage from past relationships, they may need additional support. This isn’t inherently a red flag as long as they seek out therapy, communicate their needs without overriding your own and respect your boundaries. You shouldn’t be responsible for saving your partner in every situation.

“This comes up a lot with love bombing,” says Salerno.

Social media red flags

Red flags aren’t limited to in-person encounters. They can happen with long-distance relationships and across social media accounts, too. In many ways, our social media accounts are extensions of ourselves.

“As social media grows, there are more opportunities for people to experience digital abuse,” says Salerno.

Here are some social media red flags to be aware of.

They text you all day, every day, and expect an immediate response

Communication is key to every relationship, but if it feels forced or if it’s interrupting other areas of your life, this red flag may need to be addressed.

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“If someone is constantly texting you, they have a high need to be in communication with you,” says Salerno. “Often, with that, come those power and control questions like, ‘Where are you?’ ‘Who are you with?’ and ‘When are you getting home?’”

To avoid falling too far into this trap, make sure you set up healthy boundaries and expectations. Talk with your partner early on about your text expectations to make sure you’re on the same page.

They stalk your social media accounts

Is your partner constantly checking up on where you are and what you’re doing? Are they demanding you share your location with them (even when it makes you uncomfortable)? This may come across as overprotective behavior. But whether it’s rooted in a lack of self-esteem or something else, any disregard for your personal privacy is an unhealthy form of establishing control.

(Video) 10 Red Flags of Abuse

“If someone is demanding your passwords or constantly asking you to show them their phone so they can read your texts and social media posts, they’re not allowing you to have privacy,” says Salerno.

They bully you into participating in non-consensual sexual activities

Checking in with your partner and establishing consent is an essential part of any relationship. If your partner is demanding photos, videos or other content from you that you’re uncomfortable sharing, take a step back and stand your ground. You should never feel pressured to participate in any activity you’re not comfortable with.

They ask you to delete your social media accounts

“This is another tactic for isolation,” explains Salerno. “If your social media accounts are a primary source of communication and someone is asking you to delete all social media accounts, that may be a tactic to control you. If your accounts are deleted, people don’t know where you are or if you’re safe.”

They take your private concerns public

It’s OK for your partner to crowdsource some things on the internet regarding your relationship, but it’s not OK to crowdsource others. For instance, it’s OK to post a poll on your social media newsfeed about the best place to get a certain type of food to settle a debate with your partner. But it’s not OK to make a post that puts you down and makes negative comments about you.

“If they’re taking your private arguments or concerns public in order to embarrass you, belittle you or try and gain control over you, that’s a red flag,” says Salerno.

When red flags become domestic abuse

“Domestic violence is a repeated pattern of behavior where someone is trying to gain power and control over another individual,” says Salerno. “When you start seeing a pattern of warning signs for abusive relationships, that’s when you should really be concerned.”

Domestic abuse can also include nonphysical signs like:

  • Preventing you from getting and/or keeping a job.
  • Giving you an allowance or taking your paycheck away.
  • Forcing you to account for every penny you spend.
  • Putting you down, criticizing you or calling you names in public.
  • Refusing to use birth control or preventing you from using birth control/protection.
  • Sabotaging your birth control efforts (by poking holes in condoms, for example).

“It could be name-calling, physical abuse, sexual abuse, financial abuse or something else,” says Salerno. “If you find yourself doing things that don’t feel right for you, but you’re doing them because you are trying to prevent your partner from becoming agitated and angry, you should take note of that.”

When you should seek help

If you recognize any of these behaviors in your partner, know that help is available. It’s important for your own safety to plan your exit strategy carefully. “Only you know when it will be safe for you to leave,” says Salerno.

It’s also important to be aware of when friends or family may be in this situation.

“If you know someone who’s experiencing domestic violence, the key is to listen and let them know you care,” says Salerno. “You don’t want to blame them. You want to support them and tell them they’re not responsible for what’s happening.”

Salerno recommends taking these measures for safety:

(Video) Domestic Violence: Warning Signs that Your Partner Could Become Abusive

  • Call theNational Domestic Violence Hotlineat 800.799.7233.
  • Tell a loved one to call the police if you don’t make contact by a certain time.
  • Develop a code word with children or family to prompt them to call 911.
  • Keep important documents (birth certificates, social security cards, etc.) in a safe place in case you need to leave quickly.
  • If you think someone is monitoring your technology, try using a different device that the other person doesn’t have access to.
  • Create new accounts with non-identifying usernames and/or change your usernames and passwords using an alternate device.

Fortunately, there’s light at the end of the tunnel.

“There is hope and help for people in abusive relationships,” encourages Salerno. “Youcanlive a happy and healthy life, free of domestic violence.”


Which are the 3 main warning signs that someone may be an abuser? ›

Warning Signs of an Abusive Person
  • Jealousy and Possessiveness. Wants to be with you constantly. ...
  • Controlling Behavior. ...
  • Quick Involvement. ...
  • Unrealistic Expectations. ...
  • Isolation. ...
  • Blames Others for Problems. ...
  • Blames Others for Feelings. ...
  • Hypersensitivity.

What does red flag mean in abuse? ›

In regards to domestic violence, a warning sign, also known as a “red flag”, indicates potential danger. In many abusive relationships, the warning signs are evident relatively early on in the relationship, but may only become clear in hindsight or be easier for others to see.

What are key signs that someone could be suffering from abuse? ›

Signs of physical abuse
  • bruises, black eyes, welts, lacerations, and rope marks.
  • broken bones.
  • open wounds, cuts, punctures, untreated injuries in various stages of healing.
  • broken eyeglasses/frames, or any physical signs of being punished or restrained.
  • laboratory findings of either an overdose or under dose medications.

Which of the following is a common characteristic of an abuser? ›

An abuser often denies the existence or minimizes the seriousness of the violence and its effect on the victim and other family members. An abuser objectifies the victim and often sees them as their property or sexual objects. An abuser has low self-esteem and feels powerless and ineffective in the world.

What are the 5 indicators of abuse? ›

Common signs
  • unexplained changes in behaviour or personality.
  • becoming withdrawn.
  • seeming anxious.
  • becoming uncharacteristically aggressive.
  • lacks social skills and has few friends, if any.
  • poor bond or relationship with a parent.
  • knowledge of adult issues inappropriate for their age.
  • running away or going missing.

What are seven signs that could indicate abuse? ›

Signs and symptoms of physical abuse include but are not limited to:
  • bruises, black eyes, welts, lacerations, and rope marks.
  • bone fractures, broken bones, and skull fractures.
  • open wounds, cuts, punctures, untreated injuries in various stages of healing.
  • sprains, dislocations, and internal injuries/bleeding.

What is the biggest red flag in a relationship? ›

13 red flags in a relationship to look out for
  1. Overly controlling behavior. Overly controlling behavior is a common red flag. ...
  2. Lack of trust. ...
  3. Feeling low self-esteem. ...
  4. Physical, emotional, or mental abuse. ...
  5. Substance abuse. ...
  6. Narcissism. ...
  7. Anger management issues. ...
  8. Codependency.
Feb 1, 2022

What are unhealthy relationships red flags? ›

Red flags in a relationship include excessive jealousy and frequent lying. You should also be wary of a partner who frequently criticizes you or puts you down. Another major red flag is an unwillingness to compromise — relationships shouldn't be one-sided.

What is the most common reaction to abuse? ›

They may have intense stress reactions. Their breathing, blood pressure and heart rate may increase, and their muscles may tighten. They may feel exhausted but unable to sleep, and they may have headaches, increased or decreased appetites or digestive problems.

Which of the following is a behavioral indicator of abuse? ›

Behavioral indicators of physical abuse include: Fear of going home. Extreme apprehensiveness or vigilance. Pronounced aggression or passivity.

What is the most difficult abuse to identify? ›

Emotional abuse often coexists with other forms of abuse, and it is the most difficult to identify. Many of its potential consequences, such as learning and speech problems and delays in physical development, can also occur in children who are not being emotionally abused.

What are some general characteristics of the abused woman? ›

The abused woman has no predominant demographic profile. Her psychological profile consists of low self-esteem, low self-confidence, helplessness, fear, and shame. She has conflicting feelings of love and loyalty toward the batterer.

What are situational abusers? ›

Situational molesters have adult sex partners but seek out children for sexual activity for a variety of reasons. Four patterns are listed: Repressed. This type of molester has low self-esteem and poor coping strategies. He will turn to children when stressed.

What 3 types of abuse should always be reported? ›

Physical, sexual, and emotional abuse are some of the most known types of abuse: Physical abuse is when someone hurts another person's body. It includes hitting, shaking, burning, pinching, biting, choking, throwing, beating, and other actions that cause physical injury, leave marks, or cause pain.

What is the emotional abuse cycle? ›

The cycle of abuse is made up of four stages. These stages include the building of tension, the abuse incident, the reconciliation, and a period of calm.

What are the 4 main types of intimate partner violence? ›

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) identifies four types of intimate partner violence—physical violence, sexual violence, stalking, and psychological aggression.

What is passive neglect? ›

Passive neglect is the non-willful failure to fulfill care-taking responsibilities because of inadequate caregiver knowledge, infirmity, or disputing the value of prescribed services. Self-Neglect. This is the adult's inability, due to physical and/or mental impairments, to perform tasks essential to caring for oneself ...

What are Behavioural indicators of emotional abuse? ›

humiliating or constantly criticising a child. threatening, shouting at a child or calling them names. making the child the subject of jokes, or using sarcasm to hurt a child. blaming and scapegoating.

What is a pattern of abuse? ›

The cycle of abuse is a four-stage cycle used to describe the way abuse sometimes occurs in relationships. The stages—tension, incident, reconciliation, and calm—repeat themselves over and over again if the abuse follows this pattern.

What is the 3 month rule? ›

Basically, after a break-up, the three-month rule is a rule that says you and your ex are both given 3 months before entering the dating scene again. Just waiting it out, and mourning that your relationship ended. Just go on with your individual separate lives and see what happens.

When should you call it quits in a relationship? ›

If you're not being satisfied emotionally, sexually or intellectually, it's probably time to move on. Ending a relationship is hard, but it's sometimes the only correct thing to do. If you and your partner aren't connecting on the most fundamental levels, it will be best for both of you to move on.

When to give up on a relationship? ›

Some signs that it is time to end the relationship include:
  • You've both stopped trying.
  • There is no emotional or physical connection or intimacy.
  • You have differing goals in life.
  • You no longer trust each other.
  • You can't imagine a future together.
  • There is constant conflict or abuse in the relationship.

What is stonewalling in a relationship? ›

What does it mean to stonewall someone? In simple terms, stonewalling is when someone completely shuts down in a conversation or is refusing to communicate with another person.

What are 5 warning signs of an unhealthy relationship? ›

5 signs of an unhealthy relationship
  • Feeling pressured. If your partner pressures you to do something you don't want to do (especially in relation to sexual pursuits), it's an immediate red flag.
  • Being threatened. ...
  • Violence. ...
  • Isolation. ...
  • Loss of control. ...
  • Respect. ...
  • Consent. ...
  • Communication.
Feb 14, 2022

What red flags not to ignore? ›

Major red flags are infidelity, gaslighting, controlling behavior, angry outbursts, and physical, sexual, or emotional abuse.

How do you know if a relationship is worth saving? ›

5 Ways to Know if Your Relationship is Worth Saving
  1. Are you committed to growth? ...
  2. Do you genuinely respect one another? ...
  3. Do you share values? ...
  4. Do you share a vision? ...
  5. Are you willing to forgive one another?

What are the six red flags? ›

Six dealbreaker factors emerged in a sample of American college students (N = 285, 115 men). We called these factors Gross, Addicted, Clingy, Promiscuous, Apathetic, and Unmotivated.

How do you know when a long term relationship is over? ›

You might know it's time to end the relationship if the two of you no longer respect, love, or care about one another. However, there may be subtler signs, like the two of you are drifting apart even when you're together, or things have gone cold in the bedroom.

How do you rule out abuse? ›

Factors that may be considered in determining child abuse include:
  1. Physical exam, including evaluating injuries or signs and symptoms of suspected abuse or neglect.
  2. Lab tests, X-rays or other tests.
  3. Information about the child's medical and developmental history.
  4. Description or observation of the child's behavior.
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What is hidden abuse? ›

What Is Hidden Abuse? Hidden abuses are the types of abuses that you don't see, that we don't necessarily have obvious bruises and injuries from. They are the types of abuses that are more covert, and they are hidden. They include financial, emotional, psychological, sexual, and spiritual abuse.

What is a trauma bonded relationship? ›

A trauma bond is a connection between an abusive person and the individual they abuse. It is reflective of an attachment created by repeating physical or emotional trauma with positive reinforcement. It can be hard to spot and even harder to break free from.

What are predictable patterns of abuse? ›

Here are some common warning signs of an abusive relationship: Extreme jealousy or insecurity. Checking your cell phone, text messages, emails or Facebook without your permission. Asking several questions about where you were, and who you were with.

What are the hidden effects of trauma in relationships? ›

Essentially, attachment trauma impacts our ability to feel safe with others and ourselves. We feel chronically unsafe, mistrustful, and anxious in relationships, and this manifests through the push and pull of desperately craving healthy connection, yet also fearful and ambivalent of connection and pulling away.

How do victims of emotional abuse act? ›

Emotional and psychological abuse can have severe short- and long-term effects. This type of abuse can affect both your physical and your mental health. You may experience feelings of confusion, anxiety, shame, guilt, frequent crying, over-compliance, powerlessness, and more.

Does the presence of one indicator means that abuse has occurred? ›

The presence of a single sign does not prove child abuse is occurring in a family, but a closer look at the situation may be warranted when these signs appear repeatedly or in combination.

Which three of the following options are indicators of emotional abuse? ›

Emotional abuse

fear of the dark, not wanting to go to bed, bedwetting or nightmares. lying or stealing. lack of trust in adults. poor self-image/self-esteem, poor academic performance, poor peer relationships.

What are six signs of possible physical or psychological abuse? ›

Signs and indicators
  • Low self-esteem.
  • Feeling that the abuse is their fault when it is not.
  • Physical evidence of violence such as bruising, cuts, broken bones.
  • Verbal abuse and humiliation in front of others.
  • Fear of outside intervention.
  • Damage to home or property.
  • Isolation – not seeing friends and family.

What are some recognizable signs of psychological abuse? ›

Possible indicators of psychological or emotional abuse
  • An air of silence when a particular person is present.
  • Withdrawal or change in the psychological state of the person.
  • Insomnia.
  • Low self-esteem.
  • Uncooperative and aggressive behaviour.
  • A change of appetite, weight loss/gain.
  • Signs of distress: tearfulness, anger.

What is the number one cause of abuse? ›

Risk factors

Family crisis or stress, including domestic violence and other marital conflicts, or single parenting. A child in the family who is developmentally or physically disabled. Financial stress, unemployment or poverty. Social or extended family isolation.

Why is emotional abuse so hard to prove? ›

“It is subtle and often the effects last longer and cut deeper than a physically abusive relationship,” says Crawford. Emotional abuse can be harder to spot because it doesn't leave a bruise. This has meant that it's not as well recognized by society.

What are 3 characteristics of abusers? ›

Red flags and warning signs of an abuser include but are not limited to:
  • Extreme jealousy.
  • Possessiveness.
  • Unpredictability.
  • A bad temper.
  • Cruelty to animals.
  • Verbal abuse.
  • Extremely controlling behavior.
  • Antiquated beliefs about roles of women and men in relationships.

What is the most common form of female abuse? ›

Domestic violence

It encompasses all physical, sexual, emotional, economic and psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This is one of the most common forms of violence experienced by women globally.

How do you tell if a man is a predator? ›

  1. He's really attentive in the early stages. In the initial stages of the relationship, the preparator will be very attentive. ...
  2. He uses manipulative language. ...
  3. He makes it seem normal. ...
  4. He plays the victim. ...
  5. He ridicules her. ...
  6. He pushes her boundaries sexually. ...
  7. He disempowers her. ...
  8. He secretly boasts about his conquests.
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What is a controlling behavior by an abuser? ›

Coercive control is an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.

What is predatory grooming? ›

Grooming. Grooming is the process during which a child sexual offender draws a child in by gaining his or her trust in order to sexually abuse the child and maintain secrecy. The offender may also groom the parents by persuading them of his or her trustworthiness with children.

What are three 3 other indicators of possible abuse and or neglect? ›

persistent soiling or bed wetting. sleep disturbance. inappropriate sexual behaviour based on the child's age. promiscuous affection seeking behaviour.

What are three 3 indicators of psychological and or emotional abuse? ›

Psychological Abuse Signs and Symptoms

Yelling. Insulting the person. Threatening the person or threatening to take away something that is important to them. Imitating or mocking the person.

What are the 3 dynamics of the cycle of abuse? ›

There are three phases in the cycle of violence: (1) Tension-Building Phase, (2) Acute or Crisis Phase, and (3) Calm or Honeymoon Phase. Without intervention, the frequency and severity of the abuse tends to increase over time.

What are two indicators of psychological emotional abuse? ›

Behavioural signs:

self-harm or self-abusive behaviours. challenging/extreme behaviours. excessive compliance to staff. very low self-esteem, feelings of worthlessness.

What is coercive Behaviour mean? ›

Coercive behaviour is an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.

What are the 7 components of abuse? ›

The 7 most common types of elderly abuse include physical abuse, neglect, emotional abuse, financial abuse, sexual abuse, self-neglect, and abandonment. Any of these elder abuse types can be devastating to older people and their families.

What are the 6 types of emotional abuse? ›

Types of emotional abuse
  • humiliating or constantly criticising a child.
  • threatening, shouting at a child or calling them names.
  • making the child the subject of jokes, or using sarcasm to hurt a child.
  • blaming and scapegoating.
  • making a child perform degrading acts.

What are the 3 R's to help avoid abuse? ›

As a military commander, I implore you to act on the three Rs of domestic violence awareness: recognize, respond and refer. Recognize the warning signs of domestic violence.

What qualifies as abuse? ›

Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure, or wound someone.

What is the first stage of spousal abuse? ›

Phase 1-Tension Building

In the first phase, tension builds in the relationship. Victims report their partners becoming increasingly irritable, frustrated, and unable to cope with every-day stresses. The abuser may lash out at the victim at this time, but generally stops and becomes apologetic.

What is the narcissist cycle of abuse? ›

What is the narcissistic abuse cycle? It is a pattern of behavior that is often seen in relationships where one person has a narcissistic personality disorder. It typically consists of four phases: idealization, devaluation, discarding, and hoovering.


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